As the calendar turns to a New Year, many people are busy making resolutions and hoping this will finally be the year everything changes. But according to Abby Rose, a psychic medium with a shop on Fourth Avenue in Sturgeon Bay, the pressure people put on themselves may be working against them.

“People put a lot of pressure on themselves to make a change with the New Year,” Rose said. “New Year’s resolutions create stress, and you should really take it one day at a time.”

From her perspective, part intuitive guide, part realist, Rose says lasting change has less to do with grand declarations and more to do with setting intentions that actually fit your life. Instead of sweeping promises like “completely reinvent myself,” she suggests narrowing the focus to something specific and achievable. Clear, realistic goals make it easier to recognize progress without needing a crystal ball.

Rose also warns against trying to transform every aspect of life at once. “You need to devote yourself to something that really resonates with you,” she said. “Don’t put yourself in a box that’s just going to disappoint you in the long run.” Focusing on one or two meaningful changes, she says, helps avoid burnout and keeps motivation grounded.

Planning for obstacles is another key, whether that means busy schedules, stress, or simple human nature. Rose encourages flexibility and self-compassion when things don’t go perfectly. Missing a day doesn’t mean the universe is against you, it just means you’re human.

Her advice for the New Year is refreshingly low-pressure and a little tongue-in-cheek: set intentions that feel right, keep your goals realistic, and don’t stress if the stars don’t align every day. Sometimes, the best resolution is simply to see it happen.